What Are You Worth?
For many of us life can be unexpected at the best and sometimes the worst times. It is in essence what makes us so special. We are able to imagine realities that do not currently exist. On some occasions our imagination can show us a beautiful future… However, at other times it can show us the worst possible outcome and we feel as if it were happening right now. How do we deal with such things? This is a common question many people ask. So where do we begin… we could never just shut off our imagination, close the door on fear and insecurities… could we? That may not be the best way to think about the situation. Life is most gratifying when we learn to live with these things that haunt us, learn to overcome the monsters in our head. So shutting the door on these things, if it were at all possible, would take away more than it would give us. I’m sure you at some point have overcome a fear of getting rejected and walked right up to someone and got flat out rejected. Ouch… right?!?! Not so fast! That approach is almost like ripping the band-aid off quickly, where as lets say not overcoming that self doubt and not walking up will leave you questioning and aching for days to come with the “what if I”. Almost like slowly ripping a band-aid off. If you go to any retirement home, they are full of people riddled with regrets, full of “what if’s” that have plagued them all the way to their death bed. Regret is self doubt evolved. Sometimes it is the hardest choices that give us the best results. Sometimes it is the most painful things we do, that give us the most relief. It is in the face of fear and insecurities that a person can be brave… so we must face the fear and insecurities. When we find ourselves turning our backs to fear and insecurities we begin to create self doubt, doubt that we will never do anything else but run. We do this so often it becomes a habit to doubt yourself, and all habits are broken with repetitive effort on step at a time. The irony of self doubt is in itself, it is an illusion, or our imagination of a scenario that doesn’t exist, but in our mind it could be so. The thing about it is… there are so many other possibilities, so much more to gain. It’s time we stop focusing on the worst case possible scenario… but that doesn’t mean focus on the best case scenario either. Take these things as they come, begin to open your mind to many possibilities. Open yourself up to learning from shortcomings as the come rather then running from them at the first sign of rejection or failure. Stop with the mindset that people owe you something, that you are somehow what that person wants. We are all raised different, we all like and are accustomed to many things. If a person doesn’t fancy you that is their liking, it is not your measuring stick. We are supposed to be free people, how free can you be if you stop at the first sign of rejection… how free can you be when you get upset that someone doesn’t like you, does not value the way you think. You are doubting yourself because you believe that your worth is based on how someone else feels about you, and when they don’t feel about you, your confidence is gone. Life is tough, it’s what makes us strong. However, life gets a lot tougher when you put your worth in someone else hands, because when they are gone, so is your worth. You must understand you are valuable, not because someone likes you, not because your family loves you, but because you are a human being on earth, that knows it is the most sophisticated biological thing on this planet, and your gifts are immeasurable.
