Communicating Our Faults
We stand to gain a lot of knowledge about each other; when we are talking about the things we are often too embarrassed to discuss. The more we can connect with others… on the tough things in life; the more we can learn about ourselves and the ones around us. Learning about our hardships with other people and through other people can be liberating feeling. The ability to see our hardships and faults in others helps us begin to connect and feel less alienated. Most of us want to be free from the things we see as faults. However we are so ashamed to admit them we don’t know how to express them comfortably. We must realize that the comfort comes after we express them and connect with others. The more we refuse to communicate… the things that we are embarrassed by; the more uncomfortable we start to become as a direct correlation.
It’s not easy opening up to others about our problems. Sometimes the people we open up to use it against us. These unfortunate situations create doubt that opening up and communicating our faults is a good idea all together. It is difficult but you must be smart and calculated about who you are opening up to. Build a relationship with people, get to know them so you can find a middle ground for communication. Some people are simply not ready to talk about the deep sincere things you are. That is sufficient and perfectly normal, every person is on a different path… so not all of your faults will be comparable. People have different experiences with life altogether. A lot of times this is why it is best to get to know them and find out where you can learn from each other. Identify where you can relate and where you don’t relate to build communication and trust. Of course this is not the end all be all. There are people we meet and click with immediately. This breaks us free of restriction to communicate with each other on deep topics. You will have to learn how to decide these things through experience, on a person to person basis.
Once you build a relationship with someone and the trust becomes real, you can begin to discuss your faults on an intimate level. Whether it be in months or overnight you can open up and understand one another. As your faults start to unfold through communication you will heal and subsequently heal the ones around you. The best part about nurturing one another is we create a surreal feeling of comfort. Being comfortable with one another allows us to become both the teacher and the student in these situations. If we close up and are guarded we don’t really learn from each other, we tend to judge more than we communicate. In the end we are much more alike than we are different. The faults you see in yourself are most of the time the same faults others see in themselves. Hiding these things from each other does no one any good. Whether you can see it or not… liberation from our most disturbing thoughts comes with understanding them and working to change them. You can’t learn to understand these things stuck inside your head all day and night. You can’t change any of your faults without communicating them. You need to see these things from another point of view, not just the way you see them. There is no better way of doing that then communicating with the ones that care to understand you.
